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Asking questions feels like one of the safest acts in leadership. It signals openness, curiosity and care. In organisations questions are often used to demonstrate listening and to reassure people that their voices matter. Surveys are launched, conversations are encouraged and feedback channels are opened with good intent.
The problem is not in the asking. It is in what follows.
Every question creates an expectation whether it is intended or not.
When an organisation asks people how they feel it creates an implicit commitment to engage with what comes back. That engagement does not have to mean immediate change but it does have to mean acknowledgement, explanation or visible consideration. Without that response the act of asking begins to lose credibility. This is rarely intentional. Leaders ask questions because they want insight. What is often underestimated is how strongly people associate being asked with being heard and how quickly disappointment forms when nothing appears to happen afterwards.
When questions are asked without readiness, behaviour changes. People become more cautious. Feedback becomes less specific and more neutral. Issues that could have been raised early are held back until they are severe enough to demand attention.
Asking without response turns honesty into risk.
This creates a paradox. Organisations ask more questions to understand what is really happening but end up receiving safer, less useful input. The system continues to listen but learns less. Responsibility here is not about fixing everything that is raised. It is about closing the loop. Explaining what can be acted on what cannot, and why. Acknowledging patterns even when solutions are unclear. Saying something rather than saying nothing.
Silence after asking is rarely interpreted as thoughtfulness. It is interpreted as dismissal or avoidance, even when that is not the intent. Leaders who understand this ask fewer questions but treat them with greater care. They are deliberate about timing, ownership and follow-through. They see questions not as gestures but as commitments.
When organisations adopt the principle that they do not ask questions they are not prepared to respond to, listening becomes credible again. Trust stabilises because expectation and behaviour are aligned.
